September 24, 2019

It’s not you, it’s me

It’s easy to blame ‘the other’. Them. They don’t understand me. They don’t see what I see. They missed the point I was making. It might be a publisher, after a rejection. Or an editor, on a submission. It might be a reader in a review.

But what if it was me, and not them? What if, instead of blaming the other, I looked at how I could change for them? Maybe they had a point? Maybe it wasn’t right for the age group? Or maybe it does need more clarity? If I made the work for them and not me, maybe, just maybe, this once, they could be right. Don’t we owe it ourselves to see what would happen if they were?

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December 2, 2025

Making a map of dead ends

If we can more easily see the paths we shouldn’t follow, does that make finding the correct one easier?

November 25, 2025

Paying the bills

No matter which way you dice the onion, there’s no escaping the need for money to live. So how might art factor into that?

November 18, 2025

Just feed me

If more choice for a consumer is better, then why do chef’s banquets and ‘just feed me’ options exist in restaurants?

November 11, 2025

The luxury of having no time

Most of us say we need more time but what if the opposite was true? What if less time helped us move forward?

November 4, 2025

A selfish act?

Can the selfish act of making art become an act of generosity? What happens to others who come across the work we make for ourselves?

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